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While I was riding my bike today I was “inspired” by the thought of vulnerability. It has given me a chance to consider “being” vulnerable and what that could mean to me or anybody.

Here are my thoughts on the subject:

There could be many sides to vulnerability and I only scratched the surface today considering that fact. On the enlightened side of vulnerability it is a place to experience an opening of yourself, a sharing of yourself, and an acceptance of yourself as being imperfect, doubtful, and frail in myriad of ways and being willing to expose that side of your human-ness.

From the point of view of (I would venture to guess) many women, close friends, and caring family, vulnerability is a very endearing quality.  If you have a loving and compassionate audience it affords them the opportunity to witness your courage to admit vulnerability as well as giving them the opportunity to express to you what they see in you that perhaps you don’t see.

On the shadow side of vulnerability is perhaps the mistaken belief that you truly are vulnerable. (Now, I’m taking this from the point of view that you would feel vulnerable towards another individual. Vulnerability towards an incident beyond your apparent control is a whole other topic.  I’m going to by-pass that for now, since being a part of eHarmony suggests you’d like to have a relationship with another person. I’m going to address vulnerability on the level of individual relationship.) (How’s that for parenthetical!)

I would guess that many people have been hurt by vulnerability in their past. And in being hurt in some way they are now mistrustful of “exposing” themselves to another again. Unfortunately, men and women alike will use feelings of vulnerability against one another in an effort to diminish the other in many ways. It has many motives but probably most common would be to control another or hold “force” over another in some way.

I have certainly been vulnerable in my life and am very willing to share my vulnerabilities with others. I however am no longer affected by anyone that would want to “hurt” me in any way or diminish me in any way because of it. I really am able to “witness” others’ attempts at control or force and just find it interesting. I’ve also noticed that when I’m non-reactive to their attempts at controlling or diminishing me in some way, it just goes away.  It’s very funny to watch.  And, I don’t take it personally what-so-ever! So I am no longer vulnerable at all because I don’t give thought or credence to anyone that would clearly try to diminish me. I know who/what is behind it all and I know it’s just primitive thought and behavior.

So…..that’s my thoughts on vulnerability today!

Liz Gracia Co-Founder Seeds of Intentions

Written by Liz Gracia
Co-Founder
www.SeedsofIntentions.com

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